An important person is gone, and those who survive them are sometimes unable, unwilling, or disinterested in filling that person’s role(s) or carrying out traditions and patterns as they have in the past.Shifting family dynamics can lead to the weakening of support systems.Sometimes this happens out of necessity, sometimes avoidance, sometimes expectation, and sometimes all of the above.It is important for all members of the family to recognize that no one’s grief should take complete precedence.As a general rule, we hesitate to write about different types of loss.To clarify, I am not referring to types of grief, which we’ve written about extensively.
After a death, some siblings might quickly step in to take care of their younger children and/or their parents because they feel it’s their role or duty.
Although some were able to make recommendations, many were quick to point out their struggle to find help and support for their loss.
One reader even said she dubbed herself the Obviously, this is just a post and it doesn’t substitute for dedicated organizations, movements, or other types of support – but it’s a start.
This post is long, but the last thing we want to do is create another resource that is overgeneralized and unhelpful. Okay, let’s talk about some of the reasons why the death of a sibling (at any age) is really stinking hard.
At the end of the post, we’ll link to a resource page with suggestions for locating support locally and online. shock, numbness, sadness, despair, loneliness, isolation, difficulty concentrating, forgetfulness, irritability, anger, increased or decreased appetite, fatigue or sleeplessness, guilt, regret, depression, anxiety, crying, headaches, weakness, aches, pains, yearning, worry, frustration, detachment, isolation, questioning faith I could go on, but the important thing is to understand that your feelings are unique and important.