As I mentioned above, a man’s selfishness often shows itself on a date when a man only talks himself and doesn’t ask the woman any questions. But the bottom line is, I’m just not very good with “relationships” or dating in general. What’s bothering me now is that he’s been acting differently towards me ever since. Dear Lauren, My ex-girlfriend said that she did not love me nor was she attracted to me. She made the first move on our first date, she would always initiate PDA's: kissing, touching, even arousing me in cabs, restaurants, the park...
BD’s suggestion to neg the ego-driven girls by mimicking their female solipsism is an ancient craft, and one I’ve used many times.
Girls love it when you make fun of their girl-isms, and this can be in the form of aping their words or their mannerisms (easy to do if you have observed enough girls socializing and have a handle on their gender’s peculiarities).
This is another one of those rapport-building techniques that is so powerful it can be easily overdone.
I wondered if these feminine-sounding PUAs actually liked the women or they were just playing a fun game like dress-up or doll-house.
A few posts back I submitted a link to a study that showed how women talk can reveal how self-centered they are (I can’t find or remember link right now) by using “I” so much. Upon asking them what the weather will be like tomorrow, they could say, “It will be cold,” or they could say, “I don’t know; I think I heard on the television it would be cold.” The girl that answers the first way isn’t self-centered. So, I can neg the group with this concept in a masculine way, but when I highlight the examples of how women answer questions to reveal their self-centeredness, I can go all gaylike on them and mimic their feminine responses. People like to talk about themselves; it’s fun and it makes us feel happier.