Your reasons for not having time are your reasons – own them.You don’t need to justify those reasons to anybody once you honour them but when you don’t do this and engage in contradictory behaviour that may leave a person questioning themselves and certainly questioning your integrity, an explanation will be looked for because your flip-flapping and backtracking will create questions and confusion, even if to you, it all makes logical sense.
” Just as who people are is self-evident, where a person’s priorities lie and what they make time for is self-evident too.
About a month ago I asked him if we could ever be more than friends and he said he’s not going to answer that. He’s played the entire thing out in his head and all he can see is Doom and Gloom! A few years ago I was in a similar boat as you are today.
By asking him to be more than friends, you ask him for a greater commitment.
Dear Lauren, I’ve been hanging out with this guy for 4 months. I know it doesn’t seem like much to you; after all, you’re already hanging out, you’re already intimate, all you want is to make it official and take the fun to the next level! He’s busy, he’s young, and he wants to have fun without the “drama that relationships inevitably bring.” (Do I know these guys or what?
He’s a fashion designer and writer so he’s always busy. -Cerise Hey Cerise, He didn’t answer you because an answer might mess with the status quo and he likes things the way they are now. ;-) At this time, he doesn’t have a lot to give to a partner.